tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6628169086519392271.post4084402757066374640..comments2023-12-08T01:18:33.083-08:00Comments on ImponderableThings (Scott Driscoll's Blog): Different Ways of Life: Polyamory, Traffic Laws, Japanese Address FormatsScott Driscollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07332816619406995078noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6628169086519392271.post-80052527638704799012014-09-07T20:02:25.022-07:002014-09-07T20:02:25.022-07:00My partner and I have been married for 5 years and...My partner and I have been married for 5 years and poly for life. While we have been polyamorous together things have been a bit difficult, running into issues here and there. After we changed our 'rules' to be simply just open communication and honesty things got a lot easier. Thanks for your posting, we love reading about other people in similar relationships and how to navigate the emotions behind everything.PolyCouplehttp://polyadventures.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6628169086519392271.post-68241156426948383172014-01-27T05:41:07.778-08:002014-01-27T05:41:07.778-08:00Tribal loose family structure that is a sign of ou...Tribal loose family structure that is a sign of our animal heritage was good after calamitic global event and many tribes in africa do practice that, including other parts of the world that also includes exchanging wives for a period of days in some places.<br />Pre Islamic Iranian era, scholars have noted successful ruling women who had polyamorous relationships with men. <br />Here you are juggling with many such 'choices' and all of them are 'right' otherwise the space time would just collapse. there're no rules as such.<br />But observe in all such cases how sensors of your mind(senses) are heavily influencing the mind and hearts decision to make choices. And then policy makers of a nation make decisions that suit them (China here) and there are many mail order Russian Brides now than ever.<br />These are all basic needs of humans. Humanity is when basic needs are satisfied and then how you act as a person which is more important. You'd be great to have surpassed most of these 'mind influenced by senses' decisions to be not much in need but rather much of a provider.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12150388985614924743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6628169086519392271.post-41319871084973150262013-12-09T12:32:51.836-08:002013-12-09T12:32:51.836-08:00Hey Scott,
Had to comment about this "poly&q...Hey Scott,<br /><br />Had to comment about this "poly" thing. Let's set aside all the legal/tax issues for a moment...<br /><br />Marriage is not some abstract concept that can be re-defined at will or based on the latest fad/trend. Marriage has been around for millenia, and it's primary purpose has always been to create a stable structure for procreation. That doesn't mean that marriage can't exist without children, or that single people can't bring up children; however, marriage sets up children to thrive the best.<br /><br />Divorce is a pretty modern thing - divorces were very uncommon throughout history - the reason is because marriage was not only a legally binding act, but also a commitment to your community. You pledged to your entire community that you would stay married. It was in the community's best interest that the people stay married (to bring up successful children), so the bar for divorce was quite high.<br /><br />There is no way you can convince me that being "poly" is better for raising children than marriage. It doesn't make logical sense, and there are no examples that I know of in world cultures where "poly" is the primary family structure and the culture thrived. Think about it: adults are spending time looking for additional sex partners / relationship partners instead of spending time raising children. How can that be better? <br /><br />If we really wanted to fix the divorce problem, I'd have the government get out of the whole marriage & divorce business - stop giving tax breaks, benefits, and re-legislating what marriage is.<br /><br />I'd encourage you to read the book "The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce." It's a secular study of what divorce does to children, and from my own experience of having my parents get divorced, I can say its spot on. (BTW - polyamory is not the answer)Samnoreply@blogger.com